Low libido or lack of sexual drive to develop sexual desire is very common in women as compared to the men. In the USA alone, around 40 percent women lack sexual appetite. Mostly the women of age 25 or more complain of this problem.
Before we further advance this topic, please have a look at what “sexual drive” stands for. We can describe it as a spontaneous sexual interest in the form of erotic fantasies and sexual thoughts. This condition indicates that a man or a woman naturally has a longing for sex, irrespective of existence or non-existence of any intention to fulfill it. The sexual desire is more than just a low libido or sexual drive.
In some cases, however, a woman’s sexual desire decreases up to a certain level for some physical or psychological reasons. This condition, widely known as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), causes a significant disturbance in the proper functioning of a woman’s sexual system. They usually have no orgasm issue; rather they find no inclination within them to have sex. Otherwise, they feel quite healthy, fit, and energetic enough to have a sex.
This low sexual desire in a woman badly affects her personality as well as interpersonal relations. She loses her self-confidence, romantic life, and even her partner’s trust. The breach of trust between the couple leads to conflicts and even the domestic violence.
Although the declining age lowers down the libido in a woman due to certain physical factors, but psychological factors too, contribute a lot in her lack of interest in sex. Following are some psychological causes that contribute to her lack of sexual interest.
Anxiety or depression
A variety of family issues and social pressures cause anxiety and depression in a woman. The women are more prone to anxiety or depression as they are more sensitive by nature than the men are. This anxiety ultimately leads them to low or no sexual desire.
A number of social problems cause various stresses, such as job stress, in a woman. Stress is one of the major causes of low libido.
Family issues or a woman’s lack of sexual longing may cause relationship problems between the couple. Sometimes the drift in relations leads to domestic violence or even divorce.
If both the partners are lesbians, they find little sexual interest in each other. A female lesbian never turns on despite all possible efforts by her man.
Negative sexual experience
If a woman had experienced sexual abuse or rape in the past, and the memories of that unpleasant experience still haunt her mind, possibly she would not turn up.
When a woman develops inferiority complex and portrays a negative image about her own personality, she finds herself just unable to perform sex. Her low self-esteem does not allow her to keep a desire for sex.
Sometimes unfavorable living conditions such as sharing the home or even the room with in-laws makes a woman disturbed. Thus, she does not develop sexual longing for her partner.
Sexual satisfaction is an essential part of conjugal life. Both the partners must give full pleasure to each other. Lack of sexual desire on a woman’s part may necessarily disturb her man due to want of satisfaction. Some women get embarrassed to talk to their doctor about such problem. They must fully realize the hazardous impacts of this problem upon their family and personal life. The solution lies in getting proper psychological treatment.